Styled as a memoir of his life from his adoption as a two-year-old
through the death of his beloved first wife and subsequent marriage to poet Janine
Joseph, Matthew Salesses asks his reader to think. He analyzes the literature of grief, and the
unique perspective of the internationally adopted. He examines his status as a Korean American
whose American family was not the blissful ideal the rest of the country
presumed. He grew up, as many non-white Americans
do, painfully aware of his “otherness.” Struggling
to settle on an identity he could not only live with, but own, he turned to
literature—teaching, reading and eventually writing. 
This book is not a simple memoir of even analysis of grief. It is scholarly and intelligent and full of authentic heart. Readers can find comfort in Salesses’ journey, and common, human ground.
I have read most of Salesses’ novels, and find the search for belonging, identity and love to be a consistent thread in his body of work so far. To Grieve is nothing short of a masterpiece. Grief is what gives a way forward to the survivors, by defining time at the point where when one is not only loved but loves in return. Carrying that time forward in story, and in memory, provides the vehicle that finally lets him put the grief down.
To Grieve is To Carry Another Time will be released on December 1, 2026, by Little Brown and Company. Thanks to the publisher and NetGalley for the review copy.





Then we meet Satoshi, the younger owner of her favorite wine
bar. Satoshi is amazing, and he is astonished to realize he is in love with
Fiona. But he knows he has to be careful, and Fiona needs him to be her friend.
